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Not sure if this related at all to quitting smoking...but man do I ever feel lonely tonight. I wish I had a good friend to call or someone cool to hang out with. I just had a good friend over for dinner but she had to leave early so I'm left here wishing for someone to talk to. I went out to get a couple beers and a pack of cigarettes. Which surprise surprise...did not make my lonliness go away. I log onto facebook which really just makes it worse. Too bad there's no chat room on here. As pathetic as it may sound, you all are the only ones I care to talk to right now. My virtual friends on a quitting weed site. I'm usually quite fine hanging out alone...just tonight it feels awful. It must be a form of depression, to feel this bad. I'm not actually lonely. I work all day with people, I have plans for the weekend, I have enough friends. I must quit smoking now. Weed that is. I need to get a hold of my life. I generally have very strong will power and while I can't be certain that this lonliness comes from not having weed to smoke, it sure as hell seems like it. It's a two fold problem actually. You see, when I get stoned, I love to isolate myself watch movies and trip out. Then when I need to have people around, it's hard because I'm more used to being alone. My true nature is that of a social butterfly. It has been hindered by so long with my chronic weed use that I lost the ability to go out and find the fun. It's out there for sure...and I'm sitting home feeling sorry for myself. There are people I could call, I'm just scared...and really don't want to go out with an aquantince...I just want a good friend to sit around and shoot the shit. Know what I mean? | |
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yeah i know what you mean - ive become a bit of a recluse myself in terms of going out - i see my kids a lot which stops me from getting lonely most of the time - Add me on facebook if you want we can chat there - are you in different time zone to uk ? Jim | |
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Member Posts: 100 | I know exactly what u mean new life. I also have a good social network, 2 kids, 2 fish, 2 cats, a flatmate and a partner (who doesn't live with me) yet I go through moments of feeling lonely. I agree with jim, it probably has to so with the quitting. It's difficult to know how to spend the time when I'm not smoking, but slowly I am learning that I can so alot with my 'alone' time. I have started to think about my goals, what I want to achieve in my life and actually start working on them. I found that for me the main problem has been about how I feel about myself and my lack of confidence in achieving anything. I know that I'm capable, but my anxiety around actually doing things for myself is tremendous because underneath it all I fair failure. Not being stoned has made me face that reality which is a hard one. I've really been touched by your posts and ur honesty in sharing ur experiences. I'm sure u have a lot to offer and can achieve loads....it's just about working out what ur goals are. Take care new life. Hope ur feeling better :-) | |
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Member Posts: 100 | I know exactly what u mean new life. I also have a good social network, 2 kids, 2 fish, 2 cats, a flatmate and a partner (who doesn't live with me) yet I go through moments of feeling lonely. I agree with jim, it probably has to so with the quitting. It's difficult to know how to spend the time when I'm not smoking, but slowly I am learning that I can so alot with my 'alone' time. I have started to think about my goals, what I want to achieve in my life and actually start working on them. I found that for me the main problem has been about how I feel about myself and my lack of confidence in achieving anything. I know that I'm capable, but my anxiety around actually doing things for myself is tremendous because underneath it all I fair failure. Not being stoned has made me face that reality which is a hard one. I've really been touched by your posts and ur honesty in sharing ur experiences. I'm sure u have a lot to offer and can achieve loads....it's just about working out what ur goals are. Take care new life. Hope ur feeling better :-) | |
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I do feel better thank you both. I agree Viking that this is a good time to focus on goals and such. I've got to do a major cleanse...everything is wrong. My diet is crap and I need to get back to my yoga classes, feeling lonely is just another form of depression. Excpecially when it's unwarranted, meaning if I were ona desert island for a week that would be a reasonable feeling but you can't feel lonely if your friend just left 5 minutes ago. I'm planning a major life makeover on Monday. And James, I'm not in the UK...I think I'm about 8 hours ahead or behind you all...but thanks for the offer to chat...maybe I'll hit you up sometime. I really need to focus on being happy on my own, without my internet crutch...life is good. I just need to remember that and work harder to be a self actualized individual. | |
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Member Posts: 100 | So glad ur feeling better new life. Ur right it is about focusing on u and a cleanse, yoga classes all sound great. It sounds like ur getting there just like me! I've started taking vitamins which really helped with my physical symptoms. It's so important to get the basics right, food, sleep exercise etc. R u in the states new life? I'm up for chatting on fb if it helps aswell. Take care. I think ur doing great. Xx | |
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Its comforting to know other people feel similar to me. What frightens me most about giving up is me. I am a fucking atom bomb waiting to go off. Years of emotions and feelings being surpressed by weed could come to a head. Its only day 2 and I'm planning on who to beat the fuck out of. I've always drank booze while smoking, but now its just the booze. I truly hate myself and hate what I will become. | |
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m8, drinking is a different story, I have always had a low tolerance for alcohol, try not to hurt anyone and GOOD LUCK BUDDY | |
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Yea...afraidofme....alcohol is a whole other ball game...if you are drinking really heavily you might need some more, I don't know, different kind of help, maybe AA??...keep us posted. Best wishes. | |
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AfraidOfMe, do not hate what you WILL become, for you have no idea what the final result will feel like. Hate the you that made you sign up to this forum and post. Hate the one who is burning all the bridges in his life due to an addiction. Love who you will become. Once you go through this, you will lead a new life. You will control weed, and it will no longer control you. Start to prepare yourself for this life filled with adventures and activities. Be positive, keep ur eye on ur goal. | |
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